Posts tagged: relationships
Religion and Gay Marriage (by vlogbrothers)
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In which John discusses marriage equality, what a traditional marriage actually is, and what role (if any) theological understandings of marriage play in the legal definition of marriage. Let’s continue this conversation in comments, but in doing so, let’s remember that nerdfighteria is about respect and generosity. Thanks.
Valid point
1 reason to have sex:
it’s pretty great
In which I argue all of the points I can read
1) you can have safe sex and not get HIV
2) Life is stress, I’ve heard of studies where sex can reduce stress (in layman’s terms)
3) Not everyone taking birth control is having sex
4) Sex is a different way to connect with a person
5) If it’s a romantic relationship, if sex is beginning to be a thing I’m sure they’re way past friendship. And there are other friends
6) What? It’s one thing, and if you want to get your rocks off, masturbate
7) If gettin’ it on feels right then why not have sex?
8) Sex should never be an obligation. It should be for mutual satisfaction, if it’s turned into an obligation, get out of that relationship and don’t turn back.
9) If you practice safe sex pregnancy isn’t that big a deal, and there’s also the morning after pill. Hell, if you’re planning on having sex all parties should be proactive in preventing pregnancies and STDs.
10) what? So what, you don’t have sex, what if you steal a car instead? That’s worse than getting or giving a deep dicking, tonguing, fingering, grinding, humping, frottage and all other -ings that can happen
11) Younger siblings don’t need to know what your sexual practices are. You can also be a good example of how to habe a healthy sexual relationship and answer their questions if you’re informed or practiced
12) Get in IUD and you won’t have to either, female condom and a male condom
13) Penis in vagina isn’t the only way to have a sexual experience. And all ways can be explored even if you’re having sex.
17) If all parties are practicing safe sex there is nothing to tell any parent unless you want to
18) Or, you know you can work on those interpersonal relationship skill points
Romance and Sex Questions in an Airport (by vlogbrothers)
John Green is awesome sex positive.
When Hugh Hefner can call you out on your misogyny, it’s time to seriously reevaluate your life and the choices you’ve made.
you are perfect.
How do I possibly like this more, it seems impossible.
We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him.
The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.
“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.”
The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked.
“So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”Indeed.
Brilliant.
This may be the best thing I’ve ever read.
I`ve repeatedly said that for people as little in common as Joanne and myself, we have an uncommonly good marriage. We are actors. We make pictures and that`s about all we have in common. Maybe that`s enough. Wives shouldn`t feel obligated to accompany their husbands to a ball game, husbands do look a bit silly attending morning coffee breaks with the neighborhood wives when most men are out at work. Husbands and wives should have separate interests, cultivate different sets of friends and not impose on the other…You can`t spend a lifetime breathing down each other`s necks.
If you realize “friendzoning” is just a modern name for unrequited love, it seems a lot less ignoble and more understandable.
You can’t be mad at someone for friendzoning you, that’s dumb and self-centered, but you can easily be mad at the situation of being friendzoned and that’s not at all unreasonable like some people make it out to be.
Misalignment of expectations in personal relationships is genuinely terrible and you’re not an asshole for not being able to be friends with someone any more because they don’t feel the same as you, not in my book at least.
I agree with this assessment. There are all types of relationships out there, I think putting so much emphasis on one person is unfair to that person and everyone else people may know.
“What are you hoping fans will take away from the episode, especially teenagers that are gay themselves?”
“Thank you for asking me that. I really hope that if Kurt and Blaine do anything for society or the world or anything like that, I really just hope it kind of sets the standard for gay kids. I don’t mean to upset anyone by saying this, but it is just kind of a known fact that a lot of gay kids are very promiscuous and non-exclusive with each other when they have relationships, which is really sad. But I think with Kurt and Blaine, I would hope would set an example of what something should be and could be. You know, two people finding each other and really loving each other and wanting to give the world to each other.” - Chris Colfer
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that Klaine means a lot to a lot of people - and I appreciate what Glee is doing with having such prominently open and proud characters challenge what it means to be gay in America in 2011. However, this quote leaves a bit of a bad taste in my mouth for a couple of reasons:
- Although open-relationships are NOT AT ALL for me, I think it’s a bit condescending to say that they’re sad - and it’s definitely not open-minded or tolerant.
- It’s not “kind of a known fact” that gay youth are promiscuous, as Chris says - and I resent that as a gay man. It’s quotes like these that give homophobic people the ammunition they need against gays. Hopefully it’s just a disappointing choice of words and not just plain ignorance.
- As much as I appreciate Klaine as entertainment, I don’t at all think any fictional couple should carry that burden of showing what a gay relationship “should be and could be.” I do appreciate the LGBTQ representation in popular culture, but I don’t need a holier-than-thou scripted romance to teach me relationship morals. There’s no ‘right’ way to love, and there is no ‘right’ way to do relationships.
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