ST. LOUIS ARTIST DEPICTS AFRICAN AMERICAN FATHERS WITH THEIR CHILDREN
For the past year, artist and businessman Cbabi Bayoc has attempted to create a portrait a day of a father interacting with his kid.
The resulting project, titled “365 Days With Dad,” goes beyond showing fathers who go through the motions of parenthood, and shows engaging and teachable moments.
Originally from O’Fallon, Illinois Bayoc began this project as a means of stability, but over the course of a year it morphed into a means of preserving memories and encouraging parents to be their best selves when with their kids. [Continue to view all 365 days of Bayoc’s ouevre and support his effort by ordering prints.]
When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart
“My son is now twenty-eight years old. On many occasions he has been very physically abusive to me…. Doctors have diagnosed my son with depression and borderline personality disorder; he also has a problem with drugs.”
With this anecdote, psychiatrist Joel Young, the medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine and a specialist in working with the mentally ill and their families, begins a moving and vitally important book on mental illness and parenting. The book When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart is also written by Christine Adamec, who has written many books on similar topics.
Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, “Oh no!” followed by, “How can I help to fix this?”
A very common reaction is the thought, “Where did I go wrong—was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?”
These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to “saving” their adult child—who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation.
This well-organized and helpful book includes sections discussing the difficult situations that parents face if the adult child is living at home, and incisive guides to dealing with manipulative behaviors. Later chapters address the disorders that cause difficult behaviors, as well as the symptoms of those disorders, from child neglect and abuse to suicide.
The final section encourages parents to take care of themselves first: managing sleep and health; dealing with unhelpful comments from friends; and knowing when it’s time to walk away. The book offers practical advice, stories, and resources—and, perhaps most importantly, comfort for any parent facing one of the biggest parenting challenges.
Have you ever stood in a line for WIC? PREGNANT WOMEN WILL WAIT AS LONG AS SIX HOURS with noisy toddlers to get their coupons for free proteins like cheese and dry beans. DRY BEANS. They can’t otherwise afford this necessary food to meet their monthly protein requirement to have healthy babies.
Do people honestly have any idea what sort of a problem food is in this country and how many children don’t have regular access to healthy meals? Do they know how many pregnant women don’t get the proper nutrition?
Fuck you Republicans.
I’m not even tagging these posts “politics.” This is basic humanity; it’s not me being a liberal—it’s me being a decent human and these congresstwits being INHUMAN.
When I tried to explain this to my friend in Canada she assumed I was making this up, because no one could be that cartoonishly evil.
Im on WIC as well as the woman I baby sit f or who has a 6 month old. I use their food to keep my milk supply up so its not as big of a deal but she needs it for formula and solids.Formula is $20 (sometimes more sometimes a smidge less) a can. Thats what most babies LIVE OFF OF. These families NEED this shit. Im giving her all the solid food I have that my son cant eat.
WIC is for pregnant women and children 5 and under. Its fucking milk, peanut butter, non-flavored cereal (cheerios), cheese, bread, eggs and dry beans. ITS SO IMPORTANT.
When I first got on wic I was scared, hungry and pregnant. We had lost our home, my husband lost his job and we were STARVING. There was literally nothing to eat and they helped us get to a food bank for the day, got us in to a class where they were giving out grocery gift cards and set us up with some checks. i wouldnt have eaten if it werent for WIC.
They are fucking monsters.
WIC is one of the few things that saved my family from the streets/starvation and Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck ANYONE trying to excuse this shit
My 18 month old nephew was born with zero kidney function.
They put stints into his tiny body to help improve that.
He still only has one working kidney and that’s only 70%.
Because of this he nurses or is drinking something almost constantly, and he still needs a special formula to get proper nutrition.
This formula costs $120 a JAR. He needs a jar a WEEK.
WIC will only give my sister checks for this formula, they don’t get any of the normal WIC checks, just this formula my baby nephew NEEDS TO LIVE.
Now he won’t even get THAT.
As a wic baby now grown, I signal boost this rage.
Another WIC baby chiming in. That program kept me and my three siblings fed while my dad was striking for better wages in the ’80s.
Also a WIC baby who raised a WIC baby, also a formerly single mum raised by a single mum on a reservation.
I also knew so many people back home on the rez who depended on WIC (and commods if anyone is familiar with that) to get by, especially when fishing was slow and/or low or closed for spawning.
This shutdown has awakened new rage in me.
I worked in a grocery store in off-peak hours so I didn’t see WIC that often, but I thought the program was great. I was ringing up $30 of powered formula and 7 gallons of milk at a time (I still don’t understand why people would buy all of their milk at the beginning of their checks and not space it out, but their prerogative) and produce. It was always milk, beans, fresh produce, frozen orange juice, eggs, cheese, wheat bread or tortillas and sometimes baby food.
I hated ringing up the checks because it’s a specific transaction, but I think the program is wonderful. I remember one guy was using the checks for the first time and did it wrong, I and his sister helped him understand how they worked and what was allowed.
We live in a culture where it’s increasingly expensive to raise a child and we’re not educating on preventative measures, and making it impossible to get the help that people need because they can’t afford their child in the first place. This is not the America I was told I’d be living in as an adult.
I’m on the train to London, and a family with six small kids all around the same age range got on at a stop and surrounded me. The parents are having a hard time keeping them under control, as you can imagine; there’s always one crying, one whining, two fighting and all of them needing the toilet
I feel like, if couples want to have big families, they should imagine each new prospective child as a fully-functioning body part of an enormous rabid hybrid of, let’s say, a bull and a tiger
every time one is born it adds to the body, making this bull-tiger bigger, more chaotic and thus equally more threatening
And then from that, this hypothetical twinkly-eyed couple can imagine just how many body parts they can handle between them as they travel through the china-gazelle shop that is the world
And if they don’t think they can handle the tiger-bull if it has a lot of limbs
Then they shouldn’t have a lot of kids
Because that’s exactly what it’s like
I want to say more than ‘I concur’ but I’m currently at a loss for additional words.
BILOXI, Miss. - Leann Real promised her husband, an avid sports fan, that if they ever had a son he’d get to pick the name. ESPN Montana Real was born this week at Biloxi Regional Medical Center.
and for five seconds i thought this was a joke
excuse me let me represent
parts of the south.
the dumb south.
the south is a cool place to come hang out with your friends
we have a statue of 2pac
parts of robocop were filmed here
you will enjoy our fine shopping
I’m not going to rag on the South, technically I’m in the South (Virginia is such a confused state all the time) I’m just going to say I want this kid to grow up hating sports. I want him to be the opposite of what his father wants, just because he was named ESPN.